Marriage saving may be false advertising as nothing can save a marriage like Jesus, but as we’re coming up on our 10 year anniversary, we have found there are some helpful tools (like actual objects) that have either kept an argument from happening or solved a problem that was leading to grudgy (not a word but it should be) feelings.
Our first compromise… A toaster oven/conventional toaster combo. When registering for our wedding we realized how differently we were raised. He grew up with a toaster that springs, I was raised with a toaster oven. Worlds apart, I know. If this is you, there’s a product for that.
My arguments for choosing a toaster oven was sandwich melts and butter storage. (In our family, we put butter on a plate and kept it in the toaster oven for safe keeping. I later learned that my mom did this because her butter dish broke and something about mice? ) Funny how the way things were when you were a kid creates a belief system for “the way this is supposed to be done” even when it wasn’t a preference of your parents but just a problem solver at a specific time with specific circumstances. It’ll be great when my kids register for their wedding and they scan long handled tongs to reach things up high. “Because that’s what you do.” Ha!
Back to the toaster… We used our compromise happily until it broke then got a cheap pop up toaster. I really didn’t make sandwich melts anymore and I started using a butter dish… and storing it in the fridge so it doesn’t go rancid.
My in-laws gave us these and actually called them “marriage savers.”
Are you a toothpaste tube squeezer who doesn’t mind if you’re pushing product toward or away from the opening or do you thoughtfully and wastelessly squeeze toward the spout? Most likely you’re one and your spouse is the other and you need these cheap little plastic pinchers to appease the waste-conscious one. We should all practice tooth hygiene grudge-free.
Do you wake up your spouse in the middle of the night when your fitted sheet comes off the corner of your mattress so you can pull it back down? I Googled something like “fitted sheet suspenders” and I found these bad boys and got them for my husband’s birthday as the “Something you Need” present. It was sure hard to wait until his birthday to give this gift. These may be my new go-to wedding gift.
Finally, I do this to extension cords…Some may call it braided but it really is hand crocheted in a simple chain. All you do is pull the ends and it comes right out if it’s crocheted right and if it is pulled correctly, but it drives my husband crazy. He just winds cords in a loop, but that can make a knot really easily. We nearly had to have his and hers extension cords. Recently he bought this hand cranking spool to store our extension cord.
I don’t intend to product promote with this blog, but these are my current marriage savers, and I want to hear yours too! If you can think of a tool that you use to avoid petty arguments please share it; far better to have a list of marriage savers than deal breakers.